After 3 dates dating


We are constantly in a grey area which makes one of the trickiest part of our exploits, well, ending them. - actual boyfriends or girlfriends, but many millennials seem only ever to be “seeing someone.” It’s a concept our parents just don’t understand.How do you break up with someone if you’re not even in a relationship?Sure, ghosting might be OK if you’re in the early stages of messaging but after you’ve been on a date, most people would say that’s just rude.And after how many dates do you have to end it in person rather than with a perfectly-worded message? Fortunately, Joanne Davila, Ph D and author of , has revealed what she believed to be the answer to our troubles.



“It doesn't have to be framed as a breakup,” says Davila.“It can be something more like, 'I've enjoyed hanging out with you, but I'm realising that it's not what I want going forward.I don't know if you feel the same way, but I figured I'd let you know so that we can both move on.'” And if in doubt, Davila says a short casual text is better than nothing.“For the ghoster, it's a sign that they are avoiding dealing with important feelings and fears,” Davila explains.

“When we don't deal with our fears, we don't learn to be appropriately assertive, which is what is needed for a break-up.

“We also don't learn how to treat others with kindness and compassion, which is also needed for a breakup.” And the person on the receiving end can be left feeling “confused and uncertain” which may knock their self-esteem for future relationships.