The other day I was at the local gym in the midst of one of my all too-infrequent workouts when I spied one of those A little foxes that make you forget how much weight you just dialed into the machine.I reflected on how the gym represents a kind of "so-near-yet-so-far" deal when it comes to meeting women because while they may be right there prancing around covered in sexy sweat, the environment never really seems appropriate for meeting and flirting around as it does in a nightclub.People are in a different frame of mind at the gym and often broadcast a variety of nonverbal "stay away" signals that only the boldest dare challenge.However, after a little experimentation and some intense pondering I think I may have identified a few nuggets hiding amidst this apparent wasteland, such as: 1) If they are locked-up in their own little i Pod universe, they are most likely out of reach as far as a DIRECT approach is concerned.I-pods and portable radios are by far the biggest obstacle to socializing in the gym.How do you break through to these chicks who are encapsulated in their own little world of sound and obviously trying to lock the rest of us out?You can try saying something clever to them, and if they see your lips moving will usually tear the headset off and ask "what?", but their annoyance at having to do so is apparent and this immediate negative posture is not easy to overcome.
If you get a good return look from her then you might have a play, but I usually store these up and wait to act on a similar positive read next time, not immediately.Again, I think patience is needed here because women seem easily put off by intrusions into their mental workout zone - so you have to sort of wear these barriers down first in order to set them up for a possible move later on.If you can pull a favorable eye contact reaction like this on future encounters, then a bit of stop-and-chat might be in order and will certainly appear less offensive since the girl's given you some cause to open a convo with her.Ladies know precisely how to use eye contact to either chill-out or lure men towards them, so learn how to follow their signals.
While this laid-back sort of "ticking" action might be a little too flim-flam for some of the more impatient among you, if you're looking to protect your ego and operate "without embarrassment" as much as possible then watching for these subtle signals is the best way to improve your chances of not getting blown off in public.
2) Have one loaded in the chamber and ready to go at all times.